What does the groom’s father pay for?

Answered by Frank Schwing

Traditionally, the groom’s family has certain financial responsibilities when it comes to a wedding. While these customs may vary depending on cultural and personal preferences, I will provide a general overview of what the groom’s family typically pays for.

1. Corsages and Boutonnieres: One of the primary responsibilities of the groom’s family is to provide corsages and boutonnieres for immediate members of both families. This includes the mothers and grandmothers of the bride and groom, as well as any siblings or close relatives who are part of the wedding party. These floral accessories are usually worn on the clothing to signify their involvement in the wedding ceremony.

2. Lodging for Groom’s Attendants: In some cases, the groom’s family may offer to help pay for the lodging expenses of the groom’s attendants. This typically includes the groomsmen and any other close friends or family members who are part of the groom’s side. It is a gesture of support and appreciation for their involvement in the wedding festivities.

3. Rehearsal Dinner: While the responsibility of hosting the rehearsal dinner can be shared between the bride’s and groom’s families, it is often assumed that the groom’s family takes on this expense. The rehearsal dinner is an important pre-wedding event where the wedding party, immediate family members, and sometimes out-of-town guests gather to practice the ceremony and enjoy a meal together. It is a way to thank everyone for their participation and to kick off the wedding celebrations.

It is important to note that these traditional responsibilities can vary based on personal and cultural preferences. Some families may choose to divide the costs more evenly or make different arrangements altogether. It is always advisable to have open and honest discussions between the families to determine who will be responsible for which expenses.

In my personal experience attending weddings, I have witnessed a range of financial arrangements between the bride’s and groom’s families. In some cases, the groom’s family took care of all the expenses mentioned above, while in others, the costs were shared equally between both families. There have also been instances where the bride and groom themselves have taken on a significant portion of the expenses, reducing the financial burden on their families. Ultimately, it is a decision that should be made based on the preferences and financial capabilities of all parties involved.