Why is Unfollowing so hard?

Answered by James Kissner

Unfollowing someone on social media can be difficult for a variety of reasons. It is not uncommon to have mixed emotions after a breakup, and unfollowing your ex can feel like a final step in letting go. Here are some possible reasons why unfollowing can be so challenging:

1. Emotional attachment: When you have been in a relationship with someone, you develop a strong emotional connection. Unfollowing them on social media can feel like cutting off a part of that connection and can be emotionally challenging.

2. Fear of missing out (FOMO): Social media often presents a highlight reel of people’s lives, and when you unfollow your ex, you may fear missing out on updates about their life. This fear of missing out can make it difficult to click that unfollow button.

3. Nostalgia: Seeing your ex’s posts on social media can bring back memories and nostalgia. Even if the relationship was not healthy or ended badly, there may still be a part of you that longs for the good times and is reluctant to let go of those memories.

4. Curiosity: It is natural to be curious about what your ex is up to after a breakup. Social media provides a window into their life, and unfollowing means closing that window. You may find it hard to resist the urge to see what they are doing and who they are interacting with.

5. Holding on to hope: Unfollowing your ex can feel like accepting that the relationship is truly over. If you are still hoping for a reconciliation or holding on to the idea that things might work out, unfollowing can be a difficult step to take.

6. Comparison and self-esteem: Seeing your ex moving on or appearing happy on social media can trigger feelings of jealousy and low self-esteem. Unfollowing them may be a way to protect yourself from these negative emotions, but it can also be challenging to let go of the need to compare yourself to them.

7. Mutual connections: Unfollowing your ex may also mean unfollowing mutual friends or family members, which can complicate matters further. It can be challenging to navigate these relationships and decide who to unfollow and who to keep following.

8. Fear of judgment: Unfollowing someone on social media can sometimes be seen as a public declaration of the end of a relationship. This fear of judgment from others, especially if the breakup was recent or if you share a close-knit social network, can make it harder to unfollow.

It is important to remember that unfollowing someone on social media does not mean you are erasing them from your life or that you are giving up on the possibility of healing and moving on. It is a personal choice and can be a helpful step in creating space for yourself to heal and focus on your own well-being. If you find it difficult to unfollow, it may be a sign that you need to give yourself more time and work through your emotions before taking that step.