What to have the officiant say at your wedding?

Answered by Michael Wilson

When it comes to what the officiant should say at your wedding, there are a few key elements that are considered must-haves or requirements. These elements ensure that your ceremony is legally binding and officially marks the union between you and your partner.

1. Declaration of Intent: This is the formal statement where you and your partner express your intent to marry each other. It typically begins with the phrase “I do” or “I take you,” followed by a personalized statement of commitment. This declaration is essential as it establishes that both parties are willingly entering into the marriage.

Example: Officiant: “Do you, [partner’s name], take [your name] to be your lawfully wedded spouse, to love and cherish, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, as long as you both shall live?”

Partner: “I do.”

2. Pronouncement: This is the moment when the officiant officially declares the couple as married. It is a crucial part of the ceremony as it signifies the legal union. The pronouncement is usually a concise statement that reflects the couple’s commitment and the joyous occasion.

Example: Officiant: “By the power vested in me, I now pronounce you husband and wife/wife and wife/husband and husband. You may now seal your vows with a kiss.”

These two elements are the core components that legally bind you and your partner in marriage. However, beyond these requirements, there is ample room for personalization and customization in your ceremony. You can work with your officiant to include readings, vows, or rituals that hold special meaning to you as a couple.

Some couples also choose to incorporate additional elements such as unity candle lighting, handfasting, or ring exchanges. These symbolic gestures can further enhance the significance and personalization of your ceremony.

To create a memorable and meaningful wedding ceremony, it is important to communicate your preferences and desires to your officiant. Share your love story, your values, and any specific elements you wish to include. This will allow the officiant to craft a ceremony that truly reflects your unique relationship.

Remember, your wedding ceremony is an opportunity to celebrate your love and commitment in front of your loved ones. It should be a reflection of your personalities and a representation of the journey you are embarking on together.