What does the groom’s parents traditionally pay for?

Answered by Robert Dupre

Traditionally, the groom’s family has certain financial responsibilities when it comes to wedding expenses. While customs and traditions may vary across cultures and families, there are some common expectations for what the groom’s parents typically pay for. It’s important to remember that these traditions are not set in stone and can be adjusted based on individual circumstances and agreements between the families involved.

1. Corsages and Boutonnieres: One of the main responsibilities of the groom’s family is to provide corsages and boutonnieres for immediate members of both families. This typically includes parents, grandparents, and any siblings who are not part of the wedding party. These floral arrangements are worn as a symbolic gesture and can add a touch of elegance to the wedding attire.

2. Lodging for Groom’s Attendants: In some cases, the groom’s family may offer to help cover the expenses of lodging for the groom’s attendants. This includes the groomsmen, ushers, and any other close friends or family members who are part of the groom’s side of the wedding party. Providing accommodations for out-of-town attendants can be a generous gesture and alleviate some financial burden for these individuals.

3. Rehearsal Dinner: While the responsibility for hosting the rehearsal dinner traditionally falls on the groom’s family, it is becoming more common for both families to contribute to the cost or for the couple themselves to take on this expense. The rehearsal dinner is a time for the two families to come together before the wedding and is usually held the evening before the ceremony. It provides an opportunity for the families, wedding party, and close friends to relax and socialize in a more intimate setting.

It’s worth noting that these traditional expectations can vary depending on cultural and regional customs. In some cultures, the groom’s family may have additional financial responsibilities or may be expected to cover other wedding expenses such as the engagement party or the cost of the wedding dress. It is important for the families to have open and honest communication about their expectations and financial abilities to ensure everyone is on the same page and to avoid any misunderstandings or conflicts.

Personal experiences and situations may vary greatly, and it’s always a good idea to consider the specific circumstances of your own wedding and family dynamics when determining who will cover which expenses. It’s also worth noting that modern weddings often involve more flexibility and shared financial responsibilities between the families and the couple themselves. Ultimately, the most important thing is to approach these conversations with understanding, respect, and a willingness to find a solution that works for everyone involved.