How do you teach courtesy?

Answered by Stephen Mosley

Teaching courtesy to your child is an important aspect of their social development. One specific manner that you can focus on is teaching your child how to greet someone. Here are some steps you can follow to demonstrate and teach this behavior:

1. Start by explaining the importance of greeting others. Talk to your child about why it is essential to say hello and show respect to others. You can use examples from your own life or from stories to illustrate the significance of greetings.

2. Show your child the proper way to greet someone. Demonstrate how to make eye contact, smile, and say “hello” or “good morning/afternoon/evening” when meeting someone new or when seeing someone they know. Use a friendly and warm tone of voice to convey the message.

3. Role-play with your child. Take turns pretending to be different people and practice greeting each other. Encourage your child to use the steps you demonstrated, such as making eye contact and using a friendly tone. Provide feedback and praise their efforts.

4. Encourage your child to initiate greetings. Teach them that it’s not just about responding when someone greets them but also about taking the initiative to greet others first. Encourage them to say hello to friends, family members, neighbors, or even strangers (under supervision).

5. Reinforce the behavior through positive reinforcement. Whenever your child successfully greets someone, praise and acknowledge their effort. You can say things like, “I noticed how nicely you said hello to your teacher today. That was very polite of you!”

6. Practice greetings in different social settings. Take your child to various places such as the park, a store, or a family gathering, and encourage them to greet people they meet. This helps them understand that greetings are not limited to specific situations but are important in any social setting.

7. Be a positive role model. Children learn by observing their parents, so make sure you consistently practice what you preach. Greet others with kindness and respect, and your child will likely follow your example.

Remember, teaching courtesy is an ongoing process, and it requires patience and consistency. By breaking down the behavior into steps, providing opportunities for practice, and being a positive role model, you can effectively teach your child the importance of greeting others with courtesy.