How do I tell guests no plus one?

Answered by Douglas Hiatt

When it comes to telling guests that they cannot bring a plus one to an event, it is important to be clear and explicit in your communication. People often assume that they can bring a guest without checking with the host first, so it is necessary to address this issue directly.

One way to communicate this message is to include a note on the invitation itself. You can state something along the lines of, “We kindly request that you do not bring a plus one to the event unless they are specifically named on the invitation.” This sets a clear expectation from the outset and avoids any confusion.

If you have already sent out invitations and realize that some guests may have assumed they could bring a plus one, it is important to address the issue promptly. Sending a follow-up message or making a phone call to those guests can help clarify the situation. You can politely explain that due to space constraints or other reasons, you are unable to accommodate additional guests who were not originally invited.

It is essential to be empathetic and understanding when communicating this message. Let guests know that you appreciate their desire to bring a plus one, but unfortunately, it is not possible for this particular event. Assure them that you value their presence and hope they understand the situation.

To further avoid any confusion, you can also consider adding a line on the RSVP card or response form where guests can indicate the number of people attending. This can serve as a reminder that the invitation is only for the named guest and not for additional attendees.

In some cases, guests may still insist on bringing a plus one even after being informed of your request. In such situations, it is important to stand your ground and politely reiterate your position. Explain that the event is specifically planned for the named guests and accommodating additional attendees would disrupt the arrangements made.

Remember, it is your event, and you have the right to determine the guest list. While it may be challenging to communicate this message, being clear and respectful in your communication will help guests understand and respect your decision.

When telling guests that they cannot bring a plus one to an event, it is crucial to be clear, explicit, and empathetic in your communication. Address the issue directly on the invitation and follow up with any guests who may have assumed they could bring a plus one. Provide a brief explanation for your decision and offer your appreciation for their understanding. By being firm yet polite, you can effectively convey your message and ensure a successful event.